Category Archives: abuse

Don’t Be a Shunner

I am fortunate in that I have been on the other side of the Shun and I see how the join-up system works. This is the story: Continue reading

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Down Syndrome, Guardianship and the Justice System

Down syndrome, formerly called “Mongolian Idiocy” was named for a physician who described the condition in the 1860’s, Dr. John Langdon Down. He wrote: The Mongolian type of idiocy occurs in more than ten per cent of the cases which … Continue reading

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When Your Guardian Acts Like a Creepy Stalker Dude

Amanda: Hellooooooo Me: Holy moly where have you been?! Do you know how long it has been since I talked with you? Amanda: I know! Me: I mean like I was wondering if they threw you in a ditch or … Continue reading

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A Letter From Amanda – After 9 Months

Finally, a real letter from Amanda arrived yesterday. It was a genuine one from her, the first in a year’s time. It was mostly about Mom and Dad and how much she misses them. I understand. I feel connected to … Continue reading

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Amanda Portrait – Day 8

I call this, “The Two Golden Orbs.” The picture is from the weeks in 2013 following Dad’s death, when Amanda and I stayed in the motel room that Amanda called, “Our apartment.” Este slept on Amanda’s bed every night and … Continue reading

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Amanda Portrait – Day 7

Today’s portrait is kind of cheating because I drew this back in 1978 or 79. It is a pencil sketch of Amanda, done from life, when she was brushing her hair. She is pictured with our sister. This drawing came … Continue reading

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Amanda Portrait – Day 5

It is tempting to paint Amanda as a child, because she was so pretty and photogenic. But it is important to remember that she is not a child. Today, she is shown as a woman. This is how she was … Continue reading

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Amanda, Mom is Watching!

So a couple of days ago I enlisted the help of a professional negotiator. Today, she finally reached the guardian’s lawyer. The negotiator called me back and explained that the guardian WANTS me to “have a relationship with Amanda”, but … Continue reading

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Amanda Portrait – Day 4

When Amanda was a little girl, she spent long hours sitting with me in my room, watching and keeping me company while I wrote stories at my desk. She didn’t learn to read and write until she was 21 or … Continue reading

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Amanda Portrait, Day 3

Amanda is a Special Olympics gold medal swimmer and diver. If the ferry boat ever sinks, she is, “under contract to save my sorry cement block butt.” She started out young — Dad wanted her to be confident in the … Continue reading

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