Amanda has long been a writer at heart. Beginning from when she was about two, she used to climb the stairs and sit with me in my bedroom while I wrote page after page on spiral-bound note paper. I wrote and illustrated hundreds of pages of horse stories while my patient companion was content to just sit cross-legged on the bed near my desk, watching me or quietly coloring or just waiting.
At that time, I didn’t realize the impact this was having. Amanda was just a baby then. I graduated, moved away to Alaska and then the western states. In the meantime, Amanda grew up illiterate.
Finally, when she was around 20 years old, I had moved back to Michigan and was spending lots of time with her. I sat with her in the big gold chair in the living room looking at the back of an Eddie Rabbitt album. She was a huge country music fan. I was reading the words to, I Love a Rainy Night.
She was attentive as always, and I began pointing out the letters and sounding them out. When we reached the end of each line, we would sing it.
“I love a rainy night, I love a rainy night, I love to hear the thunder, watch the lightning, when it lights up the sky… You know, it makes me feel good.”
Perhaps it was the simplistic repetition of the song, but I thought she was catching on.
Later, watching a “Hooked on Phonics” infomercial, I noticed they were using music as a foundation for their literacy program. Remembering our Eddy Rabbitt episode and how Amanda was connecting the lyrics to what was in print, I thought this made sense.
So, I saved my money and ordered one, and brought it home on my next trip North, along with a couple of Dr. Seuss children’s books. Mom and Dad wisely sent the program to Amanda’s school. It not only helped Amanda. but other kids in her special ed class learned to read, too.
When I asked Dad about her progress later, Dad said, “Yes, she is learning, but it’s going to be limited.”
I will never forget the first time Amanda stumbled through, Green Eggs and Ham. I joked that it was motivational because she was reading about food. But I was in tears. She was 21 years old by then, and opening a whole new door for herself.
From that point on, the household exploded with paper and notebooks. Amanda was filling every spiral-bound notebook in sight, practicing her shaky, angular cursive hand. She copied pages of old paperbacks. Eventually she began arranging her own thoughts; page after page.
A writer was born.
When she began journaling after our Mom’s death, I asked her, “How would you like to write a book with me? We can write about our mother, and Dad, and our experiences with the family.”
She loved the idea. We pored over our story, building it one page at a time, editing and discussing and reading to each other. We lost Mom, and we cried and wrote. We lost Dad, and we cried and wrote some more. Our siblings battled over Amanda’s guardianship, and we wrote on in determination. We were partners in a combined effort. This was our project.
During our collaboration, Amanda and I agreed on several points:
- That people with disabilities need to have a voice
- That it is important for people to get their affairs in order, to make their wishes known in a legal, indisputable way
- That no one has the right to take your happiness
- That real love can withstand anything.
We hope that our story will help others. When I asked her if she was ready to become a published author, she said, “I cannot wait! I. CAN. NOT. WAIT!”
Amanda signs her own books and visits libraries and schools with me, encouraging kids to read.
“Limited,” indeed! …If Dad could see her now.